Have you ever noticed that sometimes it’s easier to express what we don’t like or don’t want than what we do?
This happens with everything from food (“this dish is too salty” or “it needs something“) to design (“the placement of the logo looks weird”).
You can dismiss this tendency as complaining or you can call it inversion and put it to work on your behalf…
As you prepare to set goals and make plans for the year ahead, ask yourself: What do I definitely not want?
Try to focus on the things that you can control — like your habits and decisions. Here are some examples:
- I don’t want to work in an office everyday
- I don’t want to sit around watching Netflix every night
- I don’t want to be alone
- I don’t want to live in this city anymore
- I don’t want to work for a company that doesn’t appreciate me
- I don’t want to be in a toxic relationship
- I don’t want to spend time with people who bring my energy down
Make a list of what you don’t want and keep it handy… We’ll use it as part of next week’s question.